An OB-GYN’s perspective on the abortion debate…

I had my annual checkup today and was talking to my OB-GYN about a medical mission that he had just returned from in Guatemala.  He and a group of other doctors—surgeons, internists, etc—go into villages where medical care is scarce and surgery is typically inaccessible.  He talked of women having very little access to birth control; that some of them have four, six, even eight children and often their husbands must leave them in Guatemala, alone with the children, to come to the United States to work and send back money.  (Sometimes the husbands send back money for the first year or so, then meet another woman in the States…and then the money for the wife and all those children suddenly dries up, but that’s a different story.)

We started talking about the ongoing abortion/contraception discussion in the United States.  I noted how frustrating it must be for him to travel to parts of the world where there is no hope of easy access to contraceptives, only to return here where we CAN give our citizens access to contraceptives, but put limits on it or refuse it altogether.

My doctor shook his head and sighed.  “Don’t get me started,” he said.

He told me that, as an OB-GYN, what disturbs him the most is limiting a woman’s right to terminate a pregnancy.

He looked absolutely haunted as he talked about seeing “horrible genetic things” during his years of caring for pregnant women and delivering babies—things that would make people think twice about limiting a woman’s right to end a pregnancy.

And what of situations where the mother’s life is at stake?  Situations like a tubal pregnancy, where the decision literally comes down to ending the life of a baby (that cannot survive in the Fallopian tube, regardless) in order to save the life of the mother.

“It can be tubal; it will even have a heartbeat, but it’s going to kill her [the mother].”  He lowered his head.  “And where does that leave me?  Where does that leave her?  It’s easy for them to make that kind of decision on the other side of things, but where does that leave everyone on this side of things?”

I think this is a perspective that has been missing from the abortion debate.  My doctor is a regular OB-GYN.  He does not work for a scary, evil abortion clinic.  His job is to deliver babies and care for women and to provide the best and safest care for ALL of his patients—both the born and the unborn.  When our nation’s doctors are against where this discussion is heading, does that mean anything?


How do you like being used as a pawn?

Documents revealing the National Organization for Marriage’s documents have finally been released in Maine.

This is huge and it exposes exactly how right wing groups like the National Organization for Marriage function.  I’ve been saying it forever—and here is hard proof—groups like this (and the candidates they support) are using gay marriage as a political crowbar to divide the Democratic party, as well as drive moderate voters away.


The items in this link are from NOM’s own documents, which they were forced to release as part of a campaign finance investigation.  This one, in particular, discusses their strategy for turning African Americans against gay rights:


“The strategic goal of this project is to drive a wedge between gays and blacks—two key Democratic constituencies. Find, equip, energize and connect African American spokespeople for marriage, develop a media campaign around their objections to gay marriage as a civil right; provoke the gay marriage base into responding by denouncing these spokesmen and women as bigots…”

I’m am sincerely sorry that YOU were offended = Not an apology

Anti-Gay NC Blogger Quits Over Racist, Homophobic Obama Image |Gay News|Gay Blog Towleroad.

Racist, anti-gay Obama picture

“To me, fried chicken is simply a Southern cuisine.”

Bullshit, bullshit, BULLSHIT, Tara Servatius. (Your last name sounds like a villain in a “Harry Potter” book, by the way. Very fitting.)  Displaying a black person alongside a bucket of chicken is a very tired, worn out racist statement.  You very much MEANT it to be racist, so please at least stand by your obvious prejudice as you apologize make poor excuses for your actions.   By your cowardly explanation, you make the assumption that everyone is as brainless as yourself.

This kind of mindset is the reason I DETEST the state in which I was born and raised. Homophobia and racism are incredibly common in North Carolina. And this anti-gay amendment will pass with flying colors. I’ll go ahead and add it to their state constitution now, to save them all of the dirty campaigning and lie-spreading. Because the ignorant Bubbas of the state will trip all over their NASCAR folding chairs to get to the polls to vote in favor of this thing, while the minority of politically involved, educated folk watch in horror as discrimination gets embedded in their state’s constitution.

Old McDonald had a woman… Ei, Ei, Oh!

Georgia Lawmaker Terry England Likens Women to Cattle, Calls For Full Term Stillborn Pregnancies

This morning, I would like to focus on Georgia Republicans, who have just passed a bill that makes it impossible for a woman to have a stillborn baby removed from her womb.

Instead, she must wait for her baby’s dead body to pass out of her womb naturally. This is not at all traumatic or psychologically disturbing for a woman to endure—being forced to carry her dead baby around inside of her until her uterus finally decides to expel it—as pigs and cows do it all the time. This comparison is not my own, but that of Georgia Congressman Terry England, who spoke out in favor of the bill and who has carried many a baby himsel…oh, excuse me, no. Who has delivered lots of stillborn pigs.

Congratulations, women of Georgia! Your reproductive status has been downgraded to that of livestock.

While hearing this sort of discourse come out of the men of the GOP doesn’t surprise me, what absolutely shocks me is that it’s not only being accepted in the mainstream, but that laws are being passed and women are not outraged.  Women are either not paying attention, not educating themselves, or are being misguided as to what these laws really mean.

The silence from the majority of women on my Facebook page has been alarming.  The only women who are speaking out don’t even live in the US and aren’t affected by this at all.  From all of my American friends and acquaintances…nothing.   The silence is especially deafening from the conservative women who are paying attention (somewhat) to the political process and who are quick to defend Rick Santorum or repost a link to some right-wing blog denouncing “Obamacare” or labeling our President’s policies that assist the less fortunate as “socialism…”  Even these women who are so quick to speak out for the Republican party are willing to remain silent as the GOP limits their rights, as well as (for those past child-bearing age) those of their daughters and granddaughters.

I try to be somewhat moderate.  I sincerely try to listen to what each side has to say before forming an opinion.  I research the facts in news articles and (especially!) blog postings before I post or comment on them.  Given that, though, I do tend to be more liberal.  However, when another liberal or someone in the Democratic party does or says something that is inappropriate or simply morally wrong, I call them on it.  I speak out about it.  (As in the Anthony Weiner case.  Democrats can be scumbags, too.)

But I am amazed at the women who seem to take a sort of Tammy Wynette, “Stand By Your Man” mentality.  No matter how appalling the discourse may become, they are willing to swallow it and support it, because they are conservative women, dang it, and conservative values have no gray areas!  Anti-gay!  Anti-abortion!  Pro-gun!  Anti-immigrant!  Anti-welfare (even though right-leaning states use most of the money doled out for social welfare in this country…but that’s an entirely different blog post…)!

So to the conservative women of Georgia…and the Republican women of America:  this song goes out to you this Monday morning.  May you continue believing that your misguided politics will lead you directly into the waiting arms of Jesus!

The Onion: Voters Slowly Realizing Santorum Believes Every Deranged Word That Comes Out Of His Mouth

Voters Slowly Realizing Santorum Believes Every Deranged Word That Comes Out of His Mouth

Rick Santorum: Telling American Christians to
Rick Santorum tells American Christians to "Hunker down and pray" during the impending attack from homosexuals, Satan and Snooki.

“Uneasy voters told reporters it was becoming more and more evident that comments from Santorum defending sodomy laws as acceptable restrictions on ‘wants and passions’ and characterizing pregnancy occurring through rape as a ‘gift’ from God were not politically calculated but were, in fact, spoken out of sincere, startling conviction.”

This is the best Onion article I have ever read.  Ever.  Sure, because it’s funny, as the Onion usually is.  But also because it causes the reader to laugh…in sort of a nervous way…due to its horribly frightening accuracy.

Most politicians pander.  Gingrich does it.  Romney is definitely doing it.  Obama even does it.  They say things during the election cycle (sometimes very controversial things) that they quickly drop and move on from once they are elected.  In 2004, Bush was all about the anti-gay marriage amendment.  We heard “one man, one woman” batted around a kazillion times during that God-forsaken election.  Once he was safely back in office, however, we gays were safely out of his crosshairs.  Because Bush doesn’t really BELIEVE the fundamentalist Christian bullshit he spouted during the election.  Gays, however, are a very reliable tool with which to whip the fundies into a rabid, frothing, voting frenzy.  Oh, you Bible-beating little pawns!

But with Santorum, there is no doubt in my mind that the guy is not pandering.  Not one bit.  He honestly believes and stands behind every word that comes out of his mouth.  This is evident because he’s been taking these stances for YEARS.  He compared homosexuality to pedophilia and bestiality way back in 2003.  That’s a damn long time to hold up some sort of facade in order to get elected.

I am SO glad to see the Onion taking this one on!